Her face can launch a thousand ships, she writes, she dances and she acts. She is direct oftentimes upfront, unlike many she has an opinion a very strong one at times. There is always a burning desire in her to create. She has the ability to sense ineffectual and sub optimal behavior she can strip masquerades and showmanship and have this ability to flee from it. Her looks of vulnerability is absolutely seductive. She is loving and caring and is liberal with appreciation and praise. I ran into her 18 months ago and she wanted me to help her on some work. Its at that point I realized her work culture… l loved it.
Its easy to carry ill feelings through your life. But not this young lass, she puts it in the back burner and starts afresh.
When we met yesterday we discussed loads of business and life issues. It was then, at a point in time, I was sharing with her the Legal mind vs Liberal mind paradox. Life, I told her, teaches the best when we keep away from either of the ends – Legal or Liberal. OH!!!! NO!!!!! don’t you ever entertain the idea of balancing both.. if you do I warn you you will be spineless and characterless slimy wishy washy person who deserves to be spewed out of the social setting.
If its not balancing and if its not taking either the Legal or Liberal side then what do I do? one may ask. I would say its about tapping the energy that flows between both the poles. Don’t you know there is a strong magnetic feel that flows between this? Okay if you don’t know here is an example for you .. Krishna wanted Arjuna to kill and Arjuna did not want to do that .. it went on and on, this argument, and it birthed Bhagavad Gita. Do I have to tell you about the wisdom Gita contains?
So what happened out there? There was a debate and discussion or an argument on the subject – TO KILL OR NOT TO KILL. The discussion meandered on various philosophical issues and life issues and left behind a trail of wonderful thought that went on to influence many over centuries including MK Gandhi. Was the topic of the discussion resolved .. who cares???
In other words when you grapple with a particular problem you actually end up getting answers to some other future problem… its a kind of cross pollination. Only the simple and naive would want solutions for all problems instantly.
So as we spoke on a particular issue we meandered to the moral dilemma and other issues related to boundaries that a typical middle class person sets and protects it vigilantly and guards with his/ her own life. I have no problem with that. The problem comes when the boundaries become more intimidating and more fearful than the issues . Most boundaries are ‘I TOUCH NO ONE AND NO ONE TOUCHES ME TYPES’. That boundary is to protect you but then you end up playing the part of the boundary and start looking for clues about those who are trying to creep into your space. Becoming a boundary yourself you end up isolating yourself slowly and thereby denying yourself of good relationships.
Thats why I love privacy settings its more human its certainly not a brick wall
Now let me share my privacy setting :
When instinct and emotion over rides intellect .. its time to scram from that person